Most of the sex tips you see on the Internet involve a loofah, whipped cream, and everyone needing a shower. All of which is fine and dandy, but what about those times when you don’t want to get all sticky?
So, we sorted through r/AskReddit to find the best sex tips to improve your sex life, from the sultry to the silly. Now you won’t have “how to sex better” in your search history when you screen-share during your next work Zoom. You’re welcome.
20 of the Internet’s Best Sex Tips
1. Be a good kisser.
“Nothing is more important to get (and keep) things going.” – u/amolad
2. Don’t forget cardio when you hit the gym.
“Looking good is great but if you run out of gas before the finish line, it’s not something to add to the resume.” – u/thedrunkentendy
3. If they say ‘don’t stop,’ don’t change what you’re doing.
Don’t do anything differently than what you were doing when she said ‘don’t stop.’ Don’t slow down or speed up or go harder. Just do it the exact way you were.” – u/janesae
4. Be vocal.
“MAKE SOME NOISE WHEN WE BONE, PLEASE. How the hell am I supposed to know you like how I’m blowing you, or riding you, or sucking your ball if you’re quieter than a monk with a vow of silence.” – u/buttsrthetops
5. Communicate about what’s working… or not
6. Explore the whole body.
“90% of the female body is an erogenous zone. Please don’t [beeline] for nips and vajay like it’s the only part of my body you should be touching.” – u/bblemonade
7. Take your time with foreplay.
“You gotta warm up the oven before you put in the bun.” – u/beercan_dan
8. Be mindful of what’s been in your mouth before you put something else in it.
9. Remember to laugh with your partner. (Not at them.)
“Don’t be afraid to laugh together. Sex is a ridiculous and hilarious series of acts. The best sex I ever had was when my partner and I were not afraid to be goofy and silly and just enjoy each other.” – u/sigmaration
10. Be receptive to change.
“So many guys get super offended if you [try] to tell them non-critically that what they’re doing isn’t working for you. They take it as a personal failing and double down on trying to make you like what they think you should like. Don’t be that guy.” – u/JuPasta
11. Prep your hands appropriately.
“If you have dry, rough, cracked hands, please for the love of God do not put that in my vagina. Would you like it if I touched your dick with sandpaper?” – u/sarahsaturday7
12. Don’t forget about handjobs.
“A lot of people think hand-jobs are just for teenagers, but I totally disagree. It’s really simple –don’t do the same thing for too long.
- Hold the base firmly and gently ‘twist’ your wrist on top while you stroke.
- Use both hands.
- Stimulate the perineum.
- Play with the balls.
- At times, put your fingers around the shaft like a jellyfish and cap the head with your palm.
- Use lots and lots of lube!
- Kiss and lick the shaft and head.
Tell him how sexy he is and how you want to make him feel. It’s easy!” – u/PhinnishPharma
13. Take advantage of cross stimulation.
“Never underestimate the effect of touching opposite points on the body [e.g] kissing the neck, while running a hand along the waist or leg of the opposite side.” – u/narazemono
14. Spend time on the neck.
“The neck, guys. Girls like the neck, guys like the neck. Everyone likes the neck. It’s super sensitive.” – u/liverpud
15. Use props.
“Stack two pillows on top of each other, then lay her butt on there so her back is on the bed and her pelvis is slightly higher. Then you can start having sex while you’re straight up on your knees. It gives you a good angle of penetration (g-spot), you can touch her clit, and you both get a nice view.” – u/goldtubb
16. Try edging.
“When my partner and I first got together, one of us would orgasm way before the other was ready. Now, when one of us gets close we make a game out of seeing how many times we can back off and ramp back up before we finally both go wild.
I’d say that at this point, we cum together 9 times out of 10 and it’s almost always really strong.” – u/quirky_euphist
17. Wash your junk.
“Wash your penis.” – u/Bucket_O_Beef
18. Cut your nails.
“I seriously had a guy finger bang me once and I didn’t realize his nails were long and my vagina started bleeding because it was CUT on the inside. Keep them short, my dudes.” – u/justine321
19. Let go of body insecurities.
“When you are disrobing in front of your cutie and you find yourself thinking about every feature on your body that you consider unsightly, do yourself a solid and pretend none of that is there. Pretend you’re just a sexy ghost with no physical form and you’re just here to have a good time and a few orgasms.
No need to worry about the shape or sag of your thighs or your breasts or your stomach or your skin. You’re now just an untethered erogenous zone floating through space and looking for the next spot to rub on.” – u/glorioid
20. Remember to show your love.
“If you love the person you’re having sex with, incorporate your love as much as possible. Kisses, hand-holding, caressing. Treat that person like Bob Ross treats his paintings.” – u/juniusgirl
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